West Linn Community Task Force

Bullying

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.

In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:

An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

What is bullying, cyberbullying, who is at risk, prevent bullying, responsd to bullying, and much more...

  • Brutal Boys vs Mean Girls.  Bullying Trends
  • BullyBust, research-based resources for students, parents, and educators for addressing bullying incidences effectively and creating a culture of upstanders inside and out of school. Resources
  • Bullies2buddies "The Golden Rule System"
    Extensive website offers articles discussing bullying and tactics for both students and adults, Click to learn more
  • Cyberbullying Research Center.  Keeping up with what your kids are doing online.  Learn more
  • International Bullying Prevention Association.  Resources for family, caregivers, and communities.  Click here for resources
  • Just Say Yes.  Prevention Programs
  • Safekids.com, Digital citizenship, online safety, civility.  Learn more
  • Stop Bullying.gov.  Bullying, cyberbullying, and related behaviors may be addressed in a single law or may be addressed in multiple laws. In some cases, bullying appears in the criminal code of a state that may apply to juveniles.  Policies & Laws   Oregon State information
  • TeenangelsResources for Parents
  • Tweenangels, ages 7-12.  Learn more
  • There’s no doubt about it—bullying hurts our kids and our communities. Violence Prevention Works
  • The Boomerang Project.  Anti-Bullying Tips
  • Turning the weapon into a tool.  Cyberbullying and what to do
  • WiredSafety Help Service is to help people know where to get help when they are being victimized online, and to provide help when non-emergency help is needed.Learn More

 

What to do to stop cyberbullying.  Once you’ve determined that your teen is being cyberbullied, it’s time to act.

  1. Document all incidents. Save emails and texts, take screen shots of social media posts. This will be your ammunition if you ever need it.
  2. Block the sender. Never respond to the bully. It simply fuels them. Instead, find ways to block or stop their messages.
  3. Report bullying behavior online.  Facebook has developed easier ways to report abuses. Twitter is usually a little slower to take action, but they also have a reporting system, as does Instagram. If you need to find out if you can report on a specific platform, google the name of the platform with ‘report abuse.’
  4. Delete apps. If bullies are using apps like Ask.fm that cannot be blocked or receive abuse reports, get rid of the app completely.
  5. Tell the school. Even if the cyberbullying isn’t taking place on school grounds, it is likely having an impact on school interactions. Call and let them know what’s going on and ask them about their bullying policies if you haven’t already done so.
  6. Call a lawyer. If the bullying continues and if it’s serious enough, it may be necessary to get a lawyer involved. If you’ve taken every other action and the bullying hasn’t stopped and the parents have done nothing to curb their child’s bullying behavior, pursuing a civil suit may be enough to make something happen.

This resource list is intended to guide parents and perhaps teens to sites that contain general and specific information about alcohol and drug abuse. We’re not saying these are the best sites or the only sites, just that these are some we found useful.

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